Posted in About Me, Family

It’s Fine and Dandy

The Love Birds

Fine and Dandy means so much more those two words. The first time I heard “Fine and Dandy,” I just wanted to laugh. It all started in nineteen eighty-five. I met a lady for the first time and fell in love as soon as I set eyes on her. She was just as excited to meet me as I was to meet her. She loved riding dirt bikes, sled riding, fishing, boating, flowers, 4-H, and her number one love was FAMILY. But would have I thought a Grandmother would to do all of those things? I would have told you no, or are you kidding me. She lived a life full of adventures. There is one adventure that sticks in my mind. She had decided she was getting married, she did just that, ran away and married the man of her life. Through all the hards, the good times, side by side the stuck together for sixty-seven years. I hadn’t seen love until I saw the love this couple had for one another. They had a crazy kind of love. Willing to count each bean seed or each corn kernel to know how many plants would be harvest in the fall. For me, this was not “Fine and Dandy.” After losing count after the ten millionth time, I gave up.

This beautiful!!

If you had a question about plants or flowers, she had the answer. If you had doughts about a birds names, she had the answer. She had the concoction to get rid of poison ivy. Maybe you even had a question about what bait to use for fishing yep she had that answer too. She had the number of sugar cubes needed to make your hot tea taste “Fine and Dandy.” She did have her peeves. There would be hair hanging in your face. Why? She couldn’t see your beautiful eyes. OH, if you didn’t have something to pull the hair back, she had something for that too. Which would follow with a now that’s “Fine and Dandy.” There were to be NO hats worn at the table. Why? RUDE! Everything had it’s home. You get it out you put it away.

Just a small part of the family

She loved her community. If there was an activity or club, she was in it. She was a busy mother with three children. A husband who farmed and also was on different boards which kept him busy. She had eight grandchildren, nineteen great-grandchildren, and four great-grandchildren, all that kept her on toes. She also knew the rules for Basketball, so sometime’s she had to say what she knew (Not Fine and Dandy). She was grade cheerleader it didn’t matter if you were family or not you where getting cheered on.

We Graduated. Gramma with Great Granddaughter
Our Wedding Day

I’ll share another little story with you. It took place in June nineteen eighty-seven. The night before my wedding day, the day of my life. I was excited to be part of the family that I had learned to love. A family that had excepted me for who I was and am, a young gal with lots of bangs and buries on her heart. As the rehearsal night was coming to an end, my mother was upset. Not with me, but took it out on me. She took my wedding dress and refused to let me have it for my wedding day (the very next day). My mother in law to be called this fine lady, asking her to get her wedding dress out that I needed it. Her words, “Yes, I do my best. If I can’t, getting married in jeans and a nice blouse (as they called them back then) will be “Fine and Dandy.” The outcome? I was able to get my wedding dress from my mother and the day went on as planned.

The Free-spirited. Grandpa and Gramma with Grandson

This free-spirited lady was my husband Grandmother, Gramma. Ms. Fine and Dandy lived a fulfilling life here on earth for ninety-six years. She is now at rest with her runaway husband. She is even more “Fine and Dandy.” We will all have beautiful memories of the times we each shared with her. We will see her through the lessons she’s taught us, the cheers that shout from the sidelines, the blooms of flowers, the sound of the bait hitting the water, the giggles we sled ride, the smell in the air at the fair, and hear peace from the chirping of the birds.

Gramma giving her grandson his first hair cut.

We love and miss you and Grandpa, but we know you are Fine and Dandy and we will meet again. Rest in Peace.

Posted in About Me, Bible, Church

Let’s Talk Comfort Zone!

I do not take credit for this pictures. Resources are posted.

When we hear the word Comfort Zone some of us have already started running. Millions are comfortable with stepping out of it. Where for me I’m the other millions who are uncomfortable about stepping out. I have friends that have strong personalities. When I’m with them, it’s easy for me to step out of my comfort zone. They are being looked at and listened to. I slide into a spot and stay there. So I guess no I’m not stepping out of the comfort zone, am I? I prefer to staying to myself, doing very little outside the home, and I have few friends. I’m don’t feel this is a “Cry Wolf” post. I’m sharing my thoughts and feelings. I hope that this may help someone else in their Comfort Zone.

I do not take credit for this picture. Resource is posted. This would be something good to read.

I’ve been trying to work on myself. To cleanse myself before I try to bring anyone else into the Uncomforted zone. Working on comfort zones can be tricky. It’s one of those either you are or your not situations. I long to have friends. I long to have the best friend of my age. I have to love the friend inside myself first. Who is that friend? Is she fun, funny, loving, sharing, a word keeper, a go-getter? I would hope I’m all of these. Where do you fit in your inner self?

Comforted in the Bible says:

Genesis 21:17-18
Then God heard the boy’s cries, and the angel of God called to Hager from the sky, “Hager, what’s wrong? Do not be afraid! God has heard the boy’s cries from the place where you laid him. Go to him and comfort him, for I will make a great nation from his descendants.

Psalms 94:19
When doubts filled my mind, your comfort gave me renewed hope and cheer.

When we hear someone cry either from hurt, grief, loneliness, or feel they are “Crying Wolf” take a step back and ask yourself, what would you like for someone to do for you? When doubts fill our minds its time to ask for hope and to have cheerleaders on your sideline. Our Cheerleader has always been GOD, but it’s us that have lost our way. We need to listen to God. We need to read the word of God, praise our Lord for our blessings and our struggles. For he is our Comfort Zone.

Cleanse in the Bible says:

Proverbs 20:9
Who can say, “I have cleansed my heart; I am pure and free from sin.”

I know my heart needs to be cleansed. I know I’ve sinned, I’m not afraid to say that. We all sin in one way or another. But we view it differently. So that comfort zone comes into play here. We have to step out of the comfort zone to ask God to forgive us, to admit our sins, to do as God wants us to, to be like God.

I do not take credit for this pictures. Resource is posted.

Are you ready to step out of the Comfort Zone and become friends with God? Let him be the best friend inside of you, to the cheerleader on your sideline, to be the one who knows all our faults, and who holds our words close, he will be you through the cleansing process and thereafter. Do you need prayers? Step out of the comfort zone and let me know and I’ll pray for you. Remember God loves us all.

Resources:

https://www.tyndale.com/p/niv-life-application-study-bible-second-edition/9781414359755

http://www.inspirationalquotesimg.com/586879/step-out-of-your-comfort-zone-and-witness-immaculate-things-happen-in-your-life

~ Cleanse my Mind, Body, and soul. Part 1~

https://www.dominioncc.org/sermons/2018/7/2/uncomfortable

Posted in About Me, Bible, Feelings

When You Just Want To Be A Part Of

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We all long to be a part of something or someone. Being looked as at equal fills the heart. To be part of hobbies, games, stories, conversions, helps everyone feel a part of something. We have area’s that we love more than others. We turn to others to help push through the area’s we don’t like. Fitting in can be very hard for some, and for other’s, it comes naturally. When things are harder on others, feeling natural is 100 percent harder for them. The more that people work at trying to fit in will only make them push farther away. I’ve seen this happened, when? I’ve done this, I’ve worked hard at being a part of something and only find that I push myself away. I don’t like to play the status game. The status game is belittling.
The world has created this. Either your shoe fits the world. Sorry about your luck if it doesn’t. You’ll be placed in the box and shoved to the back of the closet. Out of sight out of mind as I have heard it.
It’s hard to sit back and watch this happened to so many others in the world and families. You to speak out, but you also don’t want to be that shoe in the back of the closet. Just like the tongue on our shoe that has been laced down into place, our tongues must be done the same in our mouths. We have to watch what we say, when we say it and how we say it. Again I learn this when I was much younger. I have carried this through my whole life and continue to do so today.
I’ve been trying to sort feelings and words out. I’ve found it’s like fighting a wind chime that is tangled together into knots. Untangling these words wear me out. I feel like that wind chime in the wind being beat around and bounced off one another, beaten and bruised. I continue to work at untangling the words.

But what does the Bible say:


Ecclesiastes 12:11-14
A wise teacher’s words spur students to action and emphasize important truth. The collected saying of the wise are like guidance from a shepherd. But, my child, be warned: There is no end of opinions ready to be expressed. Studying them can go on forever and become very exhausting! Here is my final conclusion: Fear God and obey his commands, for this is the duty of every person. God will judge us for everything we do, including every secret thing, whether good or bad.
We all struggle with words, relationships, groups, activities, being a part of, but it’s easier for some and harder for others.

Proverbs 10:17
People who accept correction are on the pathway to life, but those who ignore it will lead others astray.

Proverbs 10:32
The godly speak words that are helpful, but the wicked speak only what is corrupt.

Why do we feel cheated when we aren’t included? Why do we fill our emptiness with more emptiness? Why do we want to be a part? Is it because we’ve felt this all our lives? Is it that we don’t trust, or don’t know where we fit in? Or is it that we aren’t excepted, or welcome to be a part? Is that we not trusted? Or are we looked as not worthy?

Proverbs 11:1
The Lord hates cheating, but he delights in honesty.

Proverbs 11: 12-13
It is foolish to belittle a neighbor: a person with good sense remains silent.
A gossip goes around revealing secrets, but those who are trustworthy can keep a confidence.

1 John 3: 11
This is the message we have heard from the beginning: We should love one another.

I’ve been struggling with words for the last few months. I have some I want to speak and some I’d rather hold inside.

Resources:

https://www.tyndale.com/p/niv-life-application-study-bible-second-edition/9781414359755

For the picture

https://www.lds.org/youth/article/idea-list-including-everyone?lang=eng

Posted in Bible, Feelings

The Darkened Shadow Left Behind

A shadow doesn’t always follow behind us or beside us. We tend to run from shadows that are behind us that seem to be chasing us. Our silhouettes are the beautiful drawings of our shadows. We tend to stay in place and not move. When our shadow is in front of us, we give all our attention and focus on that shadow, forgetting about what was beside us or what was behind us. Shadows are now left to find their way back into the focus of the eye. Our eyes turn to worry, scared, wondering, darkened, just like the shadow we were running from but yet sitting still, the shadow in front of us has now replaced with light. Our minds focus on what’s in front of us and letting everything around us to fall, not knowing what is taking place. Our dark shadows run towards the light, but yet still left in the darkness.
Shadows have personalities just like we do. Happy, joyful, silly, sad, mad and lost. Happy, joyful and silly shadows can be washed in with the left behind shadows. Our bright shadows are a lot like our Happy = full of, joyful = filled, silly = bubbly. Lost shadows follow those who have been forgotten or replaced. Our dark shadows are a lot like our brokenness, loneliness, forgotten, replaced. Brokenness = empty, loneliness = without, forgotten = left behind, replaced = new.
We let our minds take control over what we want to see. Darkness can be seen by the broken we see the spaces, the gaps, the set-aside, unspoken too. Spaces will no longer be empty. For the gap’s they will no longer be apart. Being included will no longer be set aside. The spoken will speak to the unspoken. No one wants to be any of the darkened shadows we all want to be the part of the light. Darkness cried out to the light to be seen. Just like in the bible Matthew 27:45-46 which says:
“At noon, darkness fell across the whole land until three o’clock, Jesus called out with a lough voice, “Eli, Eli, Lema sabachthani?” which means, “My God, my God, why have you forsake me?” Darkness has called out to the light, and is still forgotten.
Darkness wants to be valued in the bible found in Luke 12:6-7
“What is the price of five sparrow? A couple of pennies? Yet God does not forget a single one of them. And the very hairs on your head are all numbered. So don’t be afraid: you are more valuable to him than a whole flock of sparrows.
Light is to shine through the darkness like the bible:
John 1: 5
“The light shines through the darkness, and the darkness can never be extinguish it.”
I truly believe this, but I feel that some will forget the darkness, that need the light.
What I’m trying to say is just this: Don’t forget about the darkened shadows behind you or beside you. Don’t forget they too are there wanting to feel the holiness, the warmth, the love and to be included. The LIGHT is to include, and push away,

Resourches:

https://www.biblestudytools.com/matthew/passage/?q=matthew+27:45-46

https://www.biblestudytools.com/luke/passage/?q=luke+12:6-7

https://www.biblestudytools.com/john/1-5.html

I used this website for the picture used in the post. I only added the words. https://paperpull.com

Posted in About Me

Mother’s Day

A Mother’s Day Gift 20 years Ago

My Mother’s Day will be pretty much like all the others. The last Mother’s Day that our Son has been a part of was six years ago. My last Mother’s Day with him, I can remember so clearly, like looking through a piece of glass. It was like every other Mother’s Day. But I didn’t know this would be the last with him. I remember what he gave me, a plant and a Mother’s Day card, along with a hug and a kiss. Hugs from him were always tight. Sometime’s if he was in a silly mood you might get lifted off your feet. I think he enjoyed hearing me squeal. I love knowing his father had taught him to show affection and strength at the same time.

I remember a statement that was said to me. Flowers and a card were stupid for Mother’s Day. Every Mother’s Day I would receive flower for my flowerbeds, along with mulch. The four of us would work hard in the yard, moving the heavy dark mulch from each flowerbed. I looked forward to this day, sharing it with both our children and my husband. It was hard work but yet satisfying.

Our Son On His Wedding Day

Why was that My last Mother’s Day with our son? Month’s before he got married, there were lots of misunderstandings, and feelings hurt. The issue’s damaged the relationship with our son. We haven’t been able to rebuild that relationship with him and his family. I have prayed many of days that lead into years for healing. Six years later things I’m still without my son on Mother’s Day. We’ve sat down and talked hoping it would help, but it didn’t. All I can do now is pray more and pray that is wife cherishes Mother’s Day.

Me and My Mother over 3 years ago

Two years ago was my last Mother’s Day with my Mother. WHY? Not by my choice but my Mother’s. I had taken care of her for two years, to the best of my ability. I followed the Doctor’s orders given. Every day, I worked hard to make sure my mother had the things she needed to live as close to possible on her own. Checking her medicines, making sure she had taken a bath, dressed, fed, paying her bills on time, making doctor appointments, taking her to and from those appointments to taking her to the store. Not only this but taking her to see her sister, out to lunch or dinner, to see my daughter graduate from college, to let her be a grandmother to the little girl I babysat also.

Two years came along then the role of the caregiver to my mother had all changed. She and my sibling had been talking behind my back and had a plan to end all that. My Mother didn’t like the way I was caring for her. I was doing everything the Doctors said and doing it by myself. I had my plate full that was running over the edges. I had my own health issue’s, my home and husband, my daughter would get graduating from college, plus trying to keep my siblings informed of what was going on with our mother. The Doctor’s rules were no driving, no doing her finances herself, and no making appointments on her own.

She had had a stroke, and her memory is in the first stages of Alzheimer’s. One of my siblings didn’t want to accept the fact that our mother was not well. I live just five to six minutes from her, where my siblings live twenty to twenty-five minutes away. I had access to her home and knew all her doctor’s and medications she was on. I knew which hospital to take her to, had all the doctor forms and documents needed. Not that my siblings couldn’t have those documents too, I just hadn’t had a minute to print them off. When I had spoken to my siblings everything was fine.

September came, and things changed. The changes were going to be big. I didn’t have time to prepare for them or the outcome. But I was no longer going to take care of our mother. My sibling had agreed with our Mother that she could indeed do all the things the Doctors had order she couldn’t. We met at the lawyer’s office to find the final decision of my mother. I indeed was removed from her care. I was no longer allowed to visit or see her. She was able to decide this because she hadn’t had the four-hour testing to show us just what she could do for herself and how her memory was. I will say she was starting to gain small tasks to do for herself. Since there were no test results to show to the lawyer, there was nothing I could do. But do what she ordered.

It’s been two years now that I haven’t shared Mother’s Day with my Mother. I do send her cards and will call her and hope she answers. But I’m not to do those things, because that’s what she told the lawyer. There are times when she answers the phone. She will ask questions, what happened, she doesn’t remember, that she thinks I’m mad at her, that I don’t want anything to do with her. Mad wasn’t the word that I was feeling, more like numb. Mad is the feeling I have towards my sibling. Disbelieve is the word I have. To this day, I have not spoken to that sibling. I choose not to because it becomes a battle. A battle of who was right and who was not. One that I don’t want to be called a liar or not trusted nor heard.

My Daughter and Her Daddy My Husband

For this Mother’s Day, I will be celebrating with my Husband, Our Daughter and Our Soon To Son In Law. Will I be getting flowers for my flowerbeds? I would think so. For me, Flowers and Cards are perfect gifts. I won’t let that statement permanently be stamped in my mind how stupid they are. So I ask you to give your mother that silly gift for Mother’s Day the one that seems stupid to others.

The Soon To Be Married Couple
Me, My Daughter and My Mother Being Silly Like Always
Posted in About Me, Church

Family

What does family mean?
Using Google, Dictionary, Family
https://www.google.com/search?q=Dictionary#dobs=family

There are several different definitions for the word Family.
Here is my favorite definition for the word Family from the Google Dictionary site:
*”a group of people related to one another by blood or marriage.”

Easter 2019 Family

Why this one? I have family members who are blood-related to me. But I also have family members who are not blood-related to me. They are the ones who I’ve gained through my relationship with my husband of more than thirty years. They’ve taught me that life can be rough. When rough times interrupt in life, the family will be there to help you through.

My Husband’s Anniversary = Family

When the family has a set of parents who have been raised to help push through those hard times, it makes those times seem easy. My husband’s parents marriage is one that I will always cherish. His parents have kept this family together. They believe in us because we believe in them. And when you have people believing in you, you begin to believe in yourself.

1989 Our Wedding Day, with both set’s of my husband’s grandparents = Family

When using the website: https://www.biblestudytools.com/dictionary/family/
The first line says for Foundation:
“The Bible is the world’s great teacher of monogamy–the union for life of one man and one woman in marriage as the basis of the family.”
This definition sum’s up my husband’s parent’s and grandparents.

As his parents are beginning to get up in age, and needing more help, it’s us the family they have built who will be the ones to help them. Just as our family will be going over a few bumping patches in the next few months, the family will be standing on a strong foundation. The foundation, that my husband parents, grandparents, siblings, children, in-laws, nieces, and nephews that have all helped build. We each are a part of the foundation in one way or another.

When using the website: https://www.biblestudytools.com/dictionary/family/
The first line says for Foundation:
“The Bible is the world’s great teacher of monogamy–the union for life of one man and one woman in marriage as the basis of the family.”
This definition sum’s up my husband’s parent’s and grandparents.

When using the website: https://av1611.com/kjbp/kjv-dictionary/family.html
States the follwing: (Which I do not take credit for)
KJV Dictionary Definition: family
family
FAM’ILY, n. L. familia

1. The collective body of persons who live in one house and under one head or manager; a household, including parents, children and servants, and as the case may be, lodgers or boarders.

2. Those who descend from one common progenitor; a tribe or race; kindred; lineage. Thus the Israelites were a branch of the family of Abraham; and the descendants of Reuben, of Manasseh, &c., were called their families. The whole human race are the family of Adam, the human family.

3. Course of descent; genealogy; line of ancestors.

Go and complain thy family is young.

4. Honorable descent; noble or respectable stock. He is a man of family.

5. A collection or union of nations or states.

The states of Europe were, by the prevailing maxims of its policy, closely united in one family.

6. In popular language, an order, class or genus of animals or of other natural productions, having something in common, by which they are distinguished from others; as, quadrupeds constitute a family of animals, and we speak of the family or families of plants.


Definitions from Webster’s American Dictionary of the English Language, 1828.

As you can see from my picture’s I’ve shared, each person holds a piece in our relationship and foundation. WE thank each and everyone of you.

Websites:

https://www.google.com/search?q=Dictionary#dobs=family

https://www.biblestudytools.com/dictionary/family/

https://av1611.com/kjbp/kjv-dictionary/family.html



Posted in Church

Pondering

I’ve been pondering rediscovering Catholicism. My parents are both
Catholic. But neither practice. My father doesn’t attend any a church of any kind. My mother attends a Baptist church. My parents had me baptized at just a few weeks old Catholic. My parents had my other two older siblings baptized Catholic also. My parents did not attend church either. My mother had always told me that she didn’t feel welcomed into the Catholic Church after she dropped out of school. She was a student at an all-girl school in Cincinnati, Ohio, Mother Mercy School. My mother met my father at a young age of seventeen years old. She fell in love dropped out of school and married my father shortly after. The rumor was she had gotten pregnant dropped out of school and married my father. It was just that a rumor. My oldest sibling was born a year later.
I never attended church while growing up. While visiting my Grandparents, I would attend church with them. The only problem, I had no clue what was going on, I became bored. When I met my husband in high school, his family did attend a Methodist Church. He had gone to church his whole life. Sunday School, Summer Vacation Bible School, prayed and thanked God for everything. So of course when I met him and his family, I thought what are they doing? But I learned from watching them that God and church are important in your life. I began attending church with him and his family.
As my husband and I grew more in love and together, we married in a Methodist Church and had two children. We decided we would have our children baptized Methodist. I had decided I wanted to be baptized Methodist also. In my early twenties, I was baptized, Methodist. We practiced going to church and getting involved for a few years, then fell off the tracks of going to church.
Years later my husband and I were invited to a Legacy Christain Church in Harrison, Ohio a Contemporary Christain Church. We had found our way into the church and loved it. Meeting new people, people our age, other parents, children the same age as ours. We were involved in Bible Studies, Walk to Emmaus, Alpha, Upward, Purpose Driven Life, and many more. We loved the music, with the upbeat kept us in tone. We were excited about going every Sunday. A few years later, our children wanted to be baptized, Christians. They were old enough to decide. We continued to attend church but fell off the Church tracks, again.
I had found different bible studies online and became devoted to doing the studies, praying daily, asking for forgiveness, finding others online like myself, lost. But once again I fell off that track too.
Since then we haven’t attended regularly to a church. Sure we would go for Christmas, Easter, and other special holidays. We went back to the Methodist Church we were married. We couldn’t content, there weren’t many people our age, there weren’t many children attending there. So yet again we fell off the Church Track.
Our daughter met a wonderful young man while in high school, they began dating. She learned that his family was Catholic. She would attend church with him and his family on special occasions. They graduated from high school and attended the same college. While in college they would attend a church there close to campus. It wasn’t every Sunday, but she was going to Church. We are so proud of her. She was confused and unsure if she wanted to convert to Catholicism. She continued to attend weddings, special holidays with her boyfriends family.
They have now graduated from college and living the adult life. Working full time, paying bills, learning to be grown, adults. They are now engaged and planning a wedding for December two thousand nineteen, in a Catholic Church. She has chosen to become Catholic. We as her parents are happy with her making this decision herself. She has been taking the classes and taking them seriously. She has taught me a few things, which has drawn myself to Catholic religon.
As I had been thinking, wondering if this is where I’m to be I came across the book, “Rediscovering Catholicism” by Matthew Kelly at the Goodwill. I’m the type of person, that if God puts in front of you, that’s where you’re to be. So, of course, I bought the book, and plan to read it from front to back. My daughter will be more than happy to help me understand, and I know that my sister in law and brother in law will help me also.

Mother Mercy High School: Located in Cincinnati, Ohio 45224 https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mother_of_Mercy_High_School_(Cincinnati,_Ohio)

Book: Rediscovering Catholicism by Matthew Kelly https://books.google.com/books/about/Rediscovering_Catholism.html?id=x45oswEACAAJ&source=kp_book_description

Book: Purpose Driven Life by Rick Warren: https://books.google.com/books/about/What_on_Earth_Am_I_Here_For_Purpose_Driv.html?id=ZnKKepETDkgC&printsec=frontcover&source=kp_read_button#v=onepage&q&f=false

Legacy Christian Church: Located in Harrison, Ohio 45030 https://harrisonlegacy.com

Rockdale Methodist Church: Located in West Harrison, Indiana 47060 http://www.umc.org/find-a-church/church/55188

Alpha: https: //alphausa.org/about

Upward Sports: https://www.upward.org/sports/basketball

Upward Sports: https://www.upward.org/sports/cheerleading

Methodist: http://www.umc.org/who-we-are?umnow_popover&gclid=EAIaIQobChMIr9-Eyu7E4QIVxlcNCh2OVQOrEAAYASAAEgLH3vD_BwE

Catholic: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Catholic_Church

Baptists: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Baptists

Walk to Emmaus: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Walk_to_Emmaus

Contemporary worship: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Contemporary_worship

Baptism: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Baptism

Bible Studies: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bible_study_(Christianity)